I believe there is a difference between being difficult unnecessarily, because we know we can and know we’ll get away with it and being difficult unnecessarily, because we struggle and fail to cope. It’s fine if we’re not having to put up with that person’s behaviour, but if we are that can be a nightmare.
We may still choose to let it go for a quiet life so as not to rock the boat and because in the short term it may seem easier, but in the long term it’s something that never goes away. If we continually have someone in our midst that mirrors that type of behaviour, then perhaps it’s time for us to do something about it.
It becomes generally accepted that if we’re struggling with something and we’re being difficult because of it, then that’s okay, but being difficult for difficult sake, is never a good thing. Unfortunately, some of us may choose to adopt this behaviour full time, because it’s far easier to stay difficult, than it is to turn our behaviour around.
For those of us dealing with difficult people, it’s important we continue to deal with them, rather than avoid them. Avoidance will never work. If on the other hand, we choose to leave things unsaid, or steer clear of disagreements, those times will create needless anxiety.
Of course, dealing with any conflict takes energy, patience, maturity and experience. It’s important in those situations for us to stand back so that we can work on being objective, calm and dispassionate.
Having been around unnecessarily difficult people in my lifetime, in the long term, I have chosen not to have those people in my life.