Blind Loyalty

Blind loyalty involves being loyal or dedicated to a person, despite the damage that person does to us, or others. Excusing bad behaviour may save face in the short term, but in the longer term, it’s us who will lose out.

It may also involve a form of cognitive dissonance, where he or she sees a problem, turns a blind eye on the truth in favour of keeping a positive image of that person, or cause. Blind loyalty is prevalent in institutions.

It happens in dysfunctional families, relationships that involve an element of control, or coercion. But being ostracised has to be better than staying in a relationship that means life isn’t our own.

When you know something is wrong and you’re acting as if everything is fine, it will end badly. When it comes to blind loyalty the universe will always want to attract our attention, for us to ‘emotionally wake up.’

Blind loyalty shouldn’t mean we go against our values, or bend to the will of another person, just because we want our situation to fit. Right is right and wrong is wrong. The relationship could be fleeting, but as with any encounter, there needs to be consideration and mutual respect.

Loyalty should be mutual and respected. Where loyalty means bending our own values to make our relationship fit, or turning a blind eye, it will only end in tears, our tears. Loyalty shouldn’t mean ignorant obedience.

27 Apr, 2021

4 thoughts on “Blind Loyalty

  1. Boy, I could probably write a few books about this subject! It has cost me most of my hopes, dreams and desires, just because I didn’t seem to know anything different.

    The expression that is most fitting for me is that ‘you live what you know’ which most people don’t really get. There were people who always used to say things like ‘why don’t you just leave,’ as far as an abusive relationship is concerned, but it’s never that simple if it’s all you have ever known.

    I’m dealing with the repercussions now, especially with my daughter, even after I rescued her from the nightmare she was living in before. It breaks my heart to not be involved in her life, but I refuse to be treated that way by anyone, including my only child.

    1. Thanks Randy. I couldn’t agree more and think you’re right. People who don’t always know what someone goes through, may not always understand how hard it is to walk away from an abusive relationship, particularly if they have never been subjected to abuse themselves.

      But the emotions are very powerful and those in an abusive relationship aren’t always aware themselves. It is only when someone points it out to them, that they begin to question the life they have.

      I believe it is important to stand back so that you can begin to question things like tone and words. Whilst some words seem okay, it’s usually the tone that changes the word used and the context in which it is delivered.

      If more people understood ‘blind loyalty’ relationships would get better, because more people would come forward, talk about it and change the way they allow others to talk to them.

      I talk about many things on my blog and have experienced many things. I am so pleased that you find what I talk about helpful.

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