There are many facets to self-esteem. Children’s brains are like sponges, absorbing as much information as they can. The messages they get eventually turn into self statements. Their beliefs, attitudes and thoughts become ingrained, and turn into a part of them that isn’t always accurate, but is accepted as true facts.
Other people’s reactions, particularly from parents, shape a child’s sense of self-worth. Any negative reactions they have will become stumbling blocks and that creates low self-esteem.
There are things we can all do to help boost low self-esteem, below:
Accept a compliment
It is hard to accept a compliment when you’ve never been paid one. Compliments must be felt: they’re not simply words. Instead of dismissing a compliment outright from someone, accept and acknowledge to yourself the fact that they wanted to pay you the compliment.
This is a common problem for a lot of people. But try to avoid pulling yourself down by saying things like you’re ‘stupid’, ‘lazy’, ‘can’t’, ‘should’ and ‘never’, and instead introduce words that renew your confidence, like ‘I can’, ‘I shall’, and ‘I will’.
Make self-esteem unconditional
Change your inner voice and embrace yourself unconditionally by facilitating a more compassionate attitude towards yourself. Take away thoughts like, ‘I’ll like myself better when’ and replace it with thoughts like, ‘I like myself now’.
Write your thoughts down on paper
What we write down can become a self-help tool and is the first step to noting our internal dialogue: internal dialogue can always be changed. The changes we incorporate into our life should be small but significant ones that happen over a period of time.
There will be lots of days where we feel we’re not achieving anything, but each significant step means we will become mentally stronger.
Try not to torment yourself over the things you feel you’ve failed at. A parting thought on this particular topic, perhaps it’s not that you’ve failed, perhaps those things were never meant for you.