There are many facets to self-esteem. As children, our brains are like sponges, absorbing as much information as we can.
The messages we get eventually turn into self-statements. Our beliefs, attitudes and thoughts become ingrained, and turn into a part of us that isn’t always accurate but is accepted by us as true facts.
Other people’s reactions, particularly from our parents, shape our sense of self-worth. Any negative reactions we have will become stumbling blocks and that creates low self-esteem. But there are things we can do to help boost low self-esteem below:
Accept a compliment
It is hard to accept a compliment when you’ve never been paid one. Compliments must be felt. They’re not simply words. Instead of dismissing a compliment outright from someone, accept and acknowledge to yourself the fact that they wanted to pay you that compliment.
This is a common problem for a lot of people. But try to avoid pulling yourself down by saying things like ‘you’re stupid, lazy, can’t, should and never’ and instead introduce words that renew your confidence, like ‘I can, I shall, and I will.’
Make self-esteem unconditional
Change your inner voice and embrace yourself unconditionally by facilitating a more compassionate attitude towards yourself. Take away thoughts like ‘I’ll like myself better when’ and replace it with thoughts like, ‘I like myself now.’
Write your thoughts down on paper
What we write down can become a self-help tool and is the first step to noting our internal dialogue; and our internal dialogue can always be changed. The changes we incorporate into our life should be small but significant ones that happen over a period of time.
There will be lots of days where we feel we’re not achieving anything, but each significant step means we become mentally stronger and is a day nearer to our goal.
Try not to torment yourself over the things you feel you’ve failed at. A parting thought on this particular topic… perhaps it’s not that you’ve failed, perhaps those things were never meant for you.