I believe with the right understanding, it is possible to turn our back and bring closure on some of those experiences that continue to haunt us.
Our loved ones may or may not answer our questions when we ask, they may answer our questions but give us the answers they think we need to hear, they may give us the answers we need but we still may have to bring about closure, because they’ve still not accepted responsibility; or they may avoid responsibility altogether. Either way bringing closure is not always easy to do.
Closure is something that comes from within us. Unfortunately, it’s not something anyone can help us with. We must also find understanding and bring closure on our experiences, without asking or insisting those who have wronged us put things right. The bad part is only we can do that but the good part is we can do it through the conscience. The conscience is the soul reflecting upon itself, as it allows us to make moral self-evaluations on our experiences.
The conscience has an innate ability to sense right and wrong, contemplate the actions of others so that we act accordingly. When we can distinguish our own moral compass and the moral compass of other people objectively through our conscience, we will always come to equate and understand the way our lives turn out, without carrying other people’s guilt.
It becomes a vicious circle for some, because without peace we can never have closure and without closure we can never have peace; but it is my belief that we can have both. With a new understanding on how the conscience works, we will have new perceptions on the way we feel about our experiences.
When we can think about someone and a particular experience without feeling dread, we know we’ve come to terms with it and therefore we have closure.