Bringing understanding

29 Apr 2017

We don’t erase the memories, but through our understanding and finding a place for those memories, we free ourselves of the bitterness. The memories brought about through other people’s actions are then remembered as a valuable lesson.

Letting go will never cancel out another person’s actions, or the frustrations we have as a consequence, but freeing ourselves of the bitterness attached to those actions, often allows us to bring about an understanding that we didn’t have before.

Our life to the point of changing direction is always as it is. We’re born into that life, but for a reason not always clear to us. We’re not always supposed to know why something happens in the way it does, or why we’re subjected to that life, but further down the line it often becomes clear.

But whatever we go through, doesn’t mean others are off the hook for allowing what we go through to happen, but where opportunities eventually arise and change happens, we can bring about an understanding and acceptance, where we may have struggled without, but we must be instrumental to that change.

There is often no getting away from our experiences, but how much effort we put in to bring about understanding will always allow for change.

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  1. Brad 01. May, 2017 at 5:46 pm #

    Our memories are long lasting and at the end of the day they are all we really have. So it’s better to find a place for the actions or words of others, than to harbour bitterness.

    Acceptance is important, but that’s not to say we forgive or forget, we just find a place for those deeds.

    • Ilana 01. May, 2017 at 5:47 pm #

      Yes, quite. I’m happy to leave this one with you.

  2. Tim 01. May, 2017 at 10:26 pm #

    In a charismatic way, you have you described our bizarre encounters with life, things we have to put up with, bring an understanding to.

    Perhaps the most effective thing to do is to get a little mindfulness inside of us; that’s why I’m on this site today.

    • Ilana 02. May, 2017 at 7:05 am #

      Thanks Tim. I’ve always thought it important no matter what I’m dealing with to bring a little bit of mindfulness into the equation. Honing in on my thoughts and using reflection for most of my adult life around what I had to deal with, brought me to a place where it’s constantly in use.

      Without using mindfulness I think it’s slightly more difficult to bring about a resolve on what we deal with. It’s usually us being mindful that brings about clarity in all situations.

  3. Bonnie Johns 02. May, 2017 at 4:02 pm #

    Yes, I wish the rest of the world and society would grasp the concept of understanding, at least make an effort at it.

    It’s really not that hard, but some claim it is. I believe the only control we have at that, is understanding for our own sanity and raising our kids to do the same.

    • Ilana 02. May, 2017 at 4:10 pm #

      Thanks Bonnie. Yes there’s always room for improvement on our understanding or at least trying to understand.

      I believe more of us know how to understand, but for one reason or another we’re not always in a good head space and can’t be bothered to work through our understandings.

      I think if more of us had empathy and tolerance, we would be more inclined to work through understanding too. When it comes to disability as you and I have experienced, there is clearly a lack of compassion and understanding.

      And as you rightly say it’s really not difficult. We just have to want to.

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