As parents, we worry when our children hook up with the ‘wrong’ people: the same thing happened to a friend’s son. My friend was concerned about his son’s friend and the influence he had on his son and spent years trying to split them up.
It was clear he wasn’t emotionally coping. Fast forward and a few years on, with work on himself, this boy turned his life around to became a model adult. Years later, when my friend bumped into him, his appearance and demeanour had changed so much he didn’t recognise him.
Not everyone will put their ‘house in order.’ Fixing our lives is painful, it’s difficult sometimes, it requires radical changes from us in how we choose to spend our energy. Some of us will look for help and do nothing, others may look for help because it makes them feel better, but may still find it difficult to put that help into practice.
Admitting to something may seem easy, it also depends on what we’re admitting to. Where our values have become destructive and we repeat bad habits, it’s not something we will admit to, but it will be clear to others, we’ve lost ourselves and we must find our way back.
The moral to the story is that whilst we’re not all born into a life where everything we touch turns to gold, we must all look at people’s circumstances, rather than judge and write them off. We are all capable of change.