Life is a learning curve with dips in the road. Every now and again we will begin to find new things out about ourselves and of other people.
The experiences we find less challenging will alter the way we see and do things, but some of our other experiences, we may simply choose to ignore.
My suggestions below have helped me:
- Never apologise to yourself or anyone else for being you and don’t feel you have to explain why you do things a certain way. You don’t have to justify yourself to others. People should accept you just the way you are;
- If you struggle with a lack of confidence and that interferes with your self-belief and how you see yourself, learn to perceive yourself in a way that you feel more confident about things. Work on your self-esteem because that helps with confidence;
- Life should be about making your own decisions. Too many of us make choices based on what other people want for us, without thinking about what we want for ourselves. It’s fine to accept other people’s advice, but the final decision must be yours;
- As hard as it is, let go of the past and any indiscretions you’ve made. At the time we don’t usually see our indiscretions as indiscretions, but if you do try not to feel bad, because it is those indiscretions that make you stronger;
- Close your past chapters. Don’t let the past and your indiscretions interfere with any future decisions you go on to make;
- Learn to love the simple things and stop looking over your shoulder at what others have, or make excuses for yourself;
- Stop trying to make up for what you didn’t have in your childhood by providing your children with those things. They won’t thank you for it;
- Stop trying to live up to other people’s expectations.
Sadly, the minute we’re born we’re expected to behave a certain way so the pressure is always on. Never let other people make you feel unworthy, or make you feel a certain way.
Dictate your own rules.