Life is a learning curve with dips in the road. Every now and again we will begin to find new things out about ourselves and of other people.
The experiences we find less challenging will alter the way we see and do things, but some of our other experiences, we may simply choose to ignore.
My suggestions below have helped me:
- Never apologise to yourself or anyone else for being you. Don’t feel you have to explain why you do things a certain way, or that you have to justify yourself to others. People should accept you just the way you are;
- If you struggle with a lack of confidence and that interferes with your self-belief and how you see yourself, learn to perceive yourself in a way so that you feel more confident about things. Work on your self-esteem because that helps with confidence;
- Life should be about making your own decisions. Too many of us make choices based on what other people want for us, without thinking about what we want for ourselves. It’s fine to accept other people’s advice, but the final decision must always be yours;
- As hard as it is, let go of the past and any indiscretions you have made. At the time you probably won’t see your indiscretions, but if you do try not to feel bad, because ultimately, working through indiscretions will make you stronger;
- Close your past chapters. Don’t let the past interfere with any future decisions you go on to make;
- Learn to love the simple things, and stop looking over your shoulder at what others have, and making excuses for yourself;
- Stop trying to make up for what you didn’t have in your childhood by providing your children with those things. They won’t thank you for it;
- Stop trying to live up to other people’s expectations.
Sadly, the minute we’re born we’re expected to conform, to behave a certain way, so the pressure is always on. Never let other people make you feel unworthy. Dictate your own rules.