Change your life

Life is a learning curve with dips in the road. Every now and again we will begin to find new things out about ourselves and of other people.

The experiences we find less challenging will alter the way we see and do things, but some of our other experiences, we may simply choose to ignore.

My suggestions below have helped me:

  • Never apologise to yourself or anyone else for being you. Don’t feel you have to explain why you do things a certain way, or that you have to justify yourself to others. People should accept you just the way you are;
  • If you struggle with a lack of confidence and that interferes with your self-belief and how you see yourself, learn to perceive yourself in a way so that you feel more confident about things. Work on your self-esteem because that helps with confidence;
  • Life should be about making your own decisions. Too many of us make choices based on what other people want for us, without thinking about what we want for ourselves. It’s fine to accept other people’s advice, but the final decision must always be yours;
  • As hard as it is, let go of the past and any indiscretions you have made. At the time you probably won’t see your indiscretions, but if you do try not to feel bad, because ultimately, working through indiscretions will make you stronger;
  • Close your past chapters. Don’t let the past interfere with any future decisions you go on to make;
  • Learn to love the simple things, and stop looking over your shoulder at what others have, and making excuses for yourself;
  • Stop trying to make up for what you didn’t have in your childhood by providing your children with those things. They won’t thank you for it;
  • Stop trying to live up to other people’s expectations.

Sadly, the minute we’re born we’re expected to conform, to behave a certain way, so the pressure is always on. Never let other people make you feel unworthy. Dictate your own rules.

14 May, 2012

6 thoughts on “Change your life

  1. Great post and some wise tips here.

    Just one of those would be good advice but together they are a winning recipe for self help.

  2. Good information. I let people talk me into things and then I regret I let them, then my guilt card shows every time and I guess people can see it.

    1. Thanks Lisa. It is the people who talk you into things that should feel the guilt, not you. You just have to learn to say no.

  3. I’ve spent the majority of my life living by other people’s rules so I’m not really aware of anything different.

    It would truly be amazing if I was able to break free of my current life to able to live my own again.

    It definitely isn’t easy to change your own life, but I know it can be done.

    1. You’re right Randy, it isn’t easy to change our own life, it takes a lot of effort and determination. Having lived by other people’s rules myself and having changed from that, I know it can be done.

      There comes a time when you just have to say ‘enough is enough’ and change what is to what and how you would like to live your life, how you see your life.

      I’m here to give you as much encouragement as you need.

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