Living around negativity automatically creates negative self-talk. Through negative self-talk, we will talk ourselves into almost anything if we continue to do it for long enough. I know because I was that child.
To live positively we must become aware both of the words that we speak outwardly to other people and our inner self-talk. We must always think on a conscience level about how we speak to ourselves, and how we let certain situations affect us.
Unfortunately, what we think, creates how we feel, how we feel determines how we act and how we act creates our experiences, so it’s important we get it right.
How to change negative self-talk:
- The key to changing negative self-talk is to lessen stress levels. When we’ve dealt with stress, our self-talk will reflect where we are emotionally;
- Keep ourselves mentally busy means keeping our mind occupied on other things. When we’re keeping busy, the mind is already detaching from negative thoughts, without us knowing we’re consciously doing it;
- It’s easy to spend time in the company of people who are negative. Learn to surround yourself with positive people so that their positivity becomes yours. We cannot change negative self-talk when we’re in the wrong company;
- Stand back so that you’re looking at your thoughts from the outside in. That way you’re more likely to look at situations objectively, with a view to changing what you see.
When you understand your circumstances, when you see the bigger picture, you will understand the changes you need to make. When you accept and take responsibility for the way you want to live your life, you will turn your once negative self-talk into positive self-talk.