Living around negativity automatically creates negative self-talk. Through negative self-talk, we will talk ourselves into almost anything if we continue to do it for long enough. I know because I was that child.
To live positively we must become aware both of the words that we speak outwardly to other people and our inner self-talk. We must always think on a conscience level about how we speak to ourselves, and how we let certain situations affect us.
Unfortunately, what we think, creates how we feel, how we feel determines how we act and how we act creates our experiences, so it’s important we get it right.
How to change negative self-talk:
- The key to changing any negative self-talk is firstly to lessen stress levels. When we deal with stress, our self-talk will reflect where we are emotionally;
- Keep yourself busy because when you’re busy, your mind will automatically stay occupied on other things. When you’re kept busy, you’re already detaching yourself from negative thoughts, without even knowing you’re consciously doing it;
- It’s easy to spend time in the company of people who are negative. Learn to surround yourself with positive people so that their being positive, becomes yours. The more time you spend with negative people, the less opportunity you will have to change your negative self-talk;
- Stand back and try to view your thoughts from an outside perspective so that you’re looking at your thoughts from the outside in. That way you’re more likely to look at situations objectively, with a view to changing them.
When you understand your circumstances, when you see the bigger picture on your life and where you feel changes need to be made. When you accept and take responsibility for the way you want to live your life, you will have turned your once negative self-talk into positive self-talk.