Changing negative self-talk

To change negative self-talk we must be aware of our inner-self talk and the words we speak to other people. We must always think on a conscious level about how we speak, and how we let certain situations affect us.

Unfortunately, what we think creates how we feel, how we feel determines how we act, and how we act, creates our experiences, so it’s important we get those right.

Below are my pointers on how to change negative self-talk:

  • Take control of your stress so that you’re being more positive. When you think and talk positively, your self-talk will reflect your positive thoughts;
  • Keep yourself busy mentally. Keep yourself busy. When you keep busy, your mind detaches from negative thoughts without you knowing you’re consciously doing it;
  • Stand back so that you’re looking at your thoughts from the outside in. That way you’ll look at situations objectively, with a view to changing what you see;
  • Surround yourself with positive people so that their positivity becomes yours.

When you can understand your circumstances, when you can see the bigger picture, you will then begin to understand the changes you need to make.

We must accept taking responsibility for ourselves. Taking responsibility puts us back in control of our thoughts and helps us create a positive lifestyle. A positive lifestyle with positive thoughts will change negative self-talk into positive self-talk.

27 Aug, 2014

6 thoughts on “Changing negative self-talk

  1. Great post and good suggestions. I’m all about positivity. Being positive makes our lives happier.

    I tell people all the time to be positive, especially my daughter now that she is expecting. She is so negative sometimes and I have to remind her to quit thinking like that and think good thoughts. The baby will feed off her and will be nervous and irritable if she keeps thinking negatively.

    Others feed off of us too. This world is so full of negativity already. We have to make ourselves happy and being positive is one of the first steps to happiness.

    1. Thanks Lisa. Aw how lovely. I agree, being positive brings about more positivity and more positivity in our lives makes us happier. You’re right it’s easy for us to feed off other people’s negativity.

      Yes, the hard part is maintaining a balance with the things deal with, whilst remaining positive and happy.

  2. I know what you’re saying as I still have those tapes running in my head. My parents were always so negative.

    There was no hope for things to be different that it made me wonder why I was bothering to even be alive. It’s no wonder most of the time I felt like they would be better off without me.

    People seem to question why I feel the way I do about them, but they have no clue what it was like. There are times that I would have rather been physically abused, since those wounds do actually heal.

    Parents are supposed to nurture and care for their children, not go out of their way to crush their spirits to make them obedient.

    Even just thinking about it makes my eyes water from the avalanche of emotions that come with it. Looking back on my life isn’t something I like to do very often, as it makes me physically ill after a while.

    The hardest part for me has been to believe it’s okay to stop beating myself up for things that weren’t my fault as a kid. 90% of the noise in my head isn’t even my baggage to be carrying.

    One of my biggest peeves is when people say, they did the best they could, when that just wasn’t true.

    1. It is okay for you to stop beating yourself up for the things that weren’t your fault.

      It took me a while too to understand that it was okay for me to stop carrying the guilt on certain aspects of my childhood. Parents don’t go to school to be parents. There are parents who clearly get things wrong out there.

      You’ve mentioned your mum before Randy, but if your mum was dealing with her own issues that will have had a lot to do with the way she parented you. It doesn’t make what she did with you right, but it serves as an explanation.

      I really hope you feel better soon about things.

  3. Sometimes we have to turn a blind eye to negativity and nourish our minds with positive images and thoughts for sheer mental health reasons.

    I’ve made a conscious effort to watch my intake of negative self talk because our minds will prowl the depths hell if we let it.

    I think it’s wise to detach ourselves from too much negativity; because while the mind is powerful, it is also perishable.

    1. Thanks Tim. I agree with you. It’s not easy making a conscious effort when you’re constantly around negativity, so you’ve done extremely well.

      As a child, it took me a lot of years to master the art, particularly as I was constantly around negativity, but it is very much worth the effort making the transition.

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