How we see ourselves in a close relationship, can prompt us to alter how we define our identities, both in negative and positive ways.
Our affections towards our significant half can influence how we see ourselves. Confidence and self-esteem and our dispositions, can influence changes in us in either negative or positive ways. Whom we choose to spend our time with, can easily influence our own feelings of self-worth and may simultaneously reveal a different side to our character, through those experiences.
The same way we change to fit into our environment, we change to fit into our relationships. Unfortunately, for people with low self-esteem they may come to change their views to fit in with their partners’ negative characteristics, rather than emulate their own positive ones, but people with high levels of self-esteem and confidence tend to do the opposite.
The high self-esteem traits we recognise in ourselves, we seek to find in our partners. People with high self-esteem are less likely to want to settle for character traits that don’t serve their purpose, particularly if they’re already more positive and have a belief system in place.
But, it’s not great when we choose to behave differently with our partners just to fit in. It’s important to be with the right person who will choose to elevate, not judge and who will offer support.
It will always end in heartache if anyone chooses to emulate their partner, just to fit into their partner’s life.