Changing the initial response to something is important if we are to avoid closing ourselves further in. Sadly, without changing the initial response, we cannot expect anything to work or change. The initial response needs to change if our circumstances are to change.
When it comes to obsessions or compulsions, without working on the initial response that can take away the concern or worry, we will end up moving boundaries to fit and work around our obsessions. We tend to work around what we’ve always done than choose to change the initial response that will give us a better outcome.
In time, we cannot expect our initial response to work, because with time moves situations or circumstances and on our part it’s important we meet those new demands.