Changing what is

We’re never satisfied with our lives, with what we’ve got. We’re in a rut. We don’t always know what we want, we just know we’re not happy.

Perhaps it’s got nothing to do with that, but has everything to do with where we are in our lives. Until we come to terms with the fact that life isn’t always how we planned, we will probably never feel satisfied, unless we choose to change the way we see and do things.

Perhaps letting go of the person you thought you should be and coming to terms with the person you are, is equivalent to working through the grieving process. Unfortunately, given what we deal with our lives don’t often turn out the way we hope.

But we can change the way we see things and that helps us change the way we want to be.

8 Nov, 2015

6 thoughts on “Changing what is

  1. Yes, the one thing I’ve had to learn is that I can only change myself, not everyone else! I have waasted far too many years wanting other people to change, but that won’t happen unless they really want to.

    It may sound cold and callous but that is the reality of dealing with other people. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink! is the expression that comes to mind. I used to live the same way myself, only doing what I wanted to do and it obviously didn’t get me very far in life. It does make it very to focus on what is instead of what was or could be!

    This is the very core of my recovery program and why it actually works, if you’re willing to work it! People act like it’s rocket science, but it’s actually very simple. ‘One day at a time’ is a quote that is meant to remind us that we can only focus on today, not yesterday or tomorrow!

    ‘You can’t teach an old dog new tricks’ rings so very true in this case, since so many people will actually prefer to do what they want to do, rather than what they really should do.

    I find it an extreme waste of my time trying to help those who, out of pride or ego, aren’t willing to do anything to help themselves.

    I’m not going to spend the rest of my life drowning, because people choose not to swim to save themselves!

    1. You’re absolutely right Randy, we can only change ourselves and we can’t ask or expect others to change. I wish we could, but that never happens.

      I also learned a long time ago that I had to help myself, to change what was to what could be and although that all happened a lot later than I would have liked, it’s important we change certain aspects of what we’re not happy with, even if we cannot change everything.

      I see any small changes as signficant steps, it really doesn’t matter how small those steps are.

  2. We are never happy with who we are. We see someone else and wish we were more like that person, thinking they have it good. Everyone has struggles that we might not know about.

    We should not worry ourselves with what other people are doing. We should just focus on being good people and on what makes us happy. What makes others happy will not necessarily makes us happy too.

    1. Thanks Maria. I couldn’t agree more. We tend to want to be other people or like other people, when we struggle to come to terms with who we are.

      With a little bit of TLC and working on our self-esteem and confidence, I believe we can turn our lives around so that we change what is with what could be.

      Nothing is ever set in stone. I believe we all have the ability to change some of the things we’re not happy with.

  3. I’m not satisfied with life because I haven’t found my true purpose, my reason for living. But I’m determined to get the most out of life from meaningful things, instead of chasing after money and the material world.

    I want to do what will spiritually benefit me, as if it were my last day.

    1. Thanks Tim. From my own experience, these things tend to come to us when we least expect and it’s usually simple, something that’s staring us in the face, but is not always that obvious.

      I completely understand how you feel. This was me until I turned things around, finding out I had Cerebral Palsy and starting The Diary. Keep yourself tuned in. I am sure it will come.

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