The hardest part for any parent is to watch their children grow as they start to make their own decisions. Even with a solid foundation based on parents’ values; trust, love and experience doesn’t mean children will take or use their parents’ advice.
It doesn’t matter the child’s age, parenting should always be less about control and more about offering support and guidance. With so much pressure on parents and children today, it still comes as no surprise that children will want to put their own slant on things.
As unique and individual as we are, so too is our decision-making. No two thought processes will be the same, but through sensible, smart, articulate and responsible reasoning on the part of the parent, there’s no reason why a child won’t begin to think and see things through their parents’ eyes eventually, it may just take maturity to do it.
There are children who will use their parents as a sounding block to bounce off new ideas and are happy to do so, but from my own experience the more independent the child, the less dependent they are on their parents. I take the view that as long as the right foundations are in place and make sense, children will eventually begin to take those early foundations on board.
As long as the foundations we put in place come from a place of care, I’m also not seeing a reason why children won’t.