Conflict is inevitable and although it’s part of everyday life, there is sometimes no getting away from it. Conflict tells us that something isn’t right.
We can use experiences involving conflict to embrace a new understanding. Perhaps we’ve said or done something that reflects an uncertain outcome. But we can always find a new way of responding to a person or situation.
Conflict is an opportunity for us to learn, an opportunity for us to question the way we have done or do things. We can all learn how to create and live better through conflict. Although most of us learn through conflict, we don’t always learn enough to move away from it and therefore invite more conflict into our lives.
By understanding that what we’re doing isn’t working, should prompt us to think differently. We should learn to consider our actions more purposefully and create more conciliatory choices. There is always more than one response open to us.
To create a sense of control and balance, we must choose a better way to think. We can choose to walk away from conflict, we can change our perceptions. We should use mediation as a tool to communicate, to get our point across.
When we use conflict destructively, no one wins. It’s not a competition and yet we behave as if we are in competition, always having to have the last word. Conflict has little to do with argument, what the other person said, what we said.
Conflict is something that’s inside of us, usually brought about from childhood experiences, not yet dealt with. Conflict is the scapegoat of all our problems.