Abuse is abuse, whichever form it takes, but no matter how it presents, it has become so common place now, we don’t even think or see it as abuse. But unless you’re speaking with compassion, empathy and understanding, everything else is abuse.
We would rather walk on egg-shells and tip-toe around people, than confront those who abuse. We have our reasons, but what we must do is inform those who abuse that we’re calling time on the way they conduct their relationship with us. In time, abuse will fragment our spiritual and psychological health.
As hard as it is to confront people who abuse, it’s especially hard when it happens through a spouse, a parent, or a child. But anything that belies a harmful tone, is abuse. Abuse even if it is considered mild, can be harmful. And the longer it continues, the more drained and battered we become.
There are different types of abuse including physical, mental, emotional, financial, sexual, spiritual and verbal. But it is important to recognise abuse, if you are to get past it. Living in the present whilst abuse is happening, is the best way to recognise it. Having our say and it coming from the heart, is the best way to start.
Saying what we feel helps. On our part, it is important we take the first step. It is also important that we reclaim our power and say ‘yes’ to ourselves and ‘no’ to others when it’s necessary.