Abuse is abuse, whichever form it takes, but no matter how it presents, it has become so common place, we don’t even think or see it as abuse. But unless we’re speaking with compassion, empathy and understanding, everything else is abuse.
Sadly, we would rather walk on egg-shells and tip-toe around people, than confront those who abuse. We have our reasons, but what we must do, is inform those who abuse us that we’re calling time on the way they conduct their relationship with us. In time, abuse fragments our spiritual and psychological health.
As hard as it is to confront people who abuse, it’s especially hard when it happens through a spouse, a parent, or a child. But anything that belies a harmful tone, is abuse. Abuse even if it is considered mild, can be harmful. And the longer it continues, the more drained and battered we become.
There are different types of abuse and they include physical, mental, emotional, financial, sexual, spiritual and verbal. But it is important we recognise abuse, if we are to get past it. Living in the present whilst abuse is happening, is the best way to recognise it. Having our say and it coming from the heart, I believe is the best way to start.
I remember my own experience of confronting abuse. The abuse got so bad, I had to distance myself for a period of weeks. Something happened soon after that where I was asked to make contact, but not before that person got in touch with me to apologise for his behaviour. It was the hardest call I’ve ever had to make and the longest.
It wasn’t an easy call, but it worked because the dynamics changed completely after that. Saying what we feel helps. On our part, it’s important we take the first step. It’s also important that we reclaim our power and say ‘yes’ to ourselves and ‘no’ to others when it’s necessary.