Coping with change

We get one crack at life, therefore it’s important we learn to cope with change as part of that life. It’s important we live presently. For those of us who live presently we will find change, our approach to change and coping with change easier.

We need to see change as something that brings something better, particularly if we’re not happy and we’re stuck on the other side of change. Change has to be better than where we currently may reside.

How do we cope with change?

We must start by asking what’s the worst thing that can happen? What is it that worries you about change and if you choose not to change things, is where you are better? If we’re honest, we will at least want to think about change.

Although we cannot always plan for change, like the unexpected death of a loved one, where we can plan it’s important we plan. If after we’ve taken action and we’re still not comfortable, it’s okay to ask for help.

Once we’re through the other end of change, and we look back, change is never as bad as we think. The mind plays tricks. But change becomes the reason we have a strong resistance, whether we’re avoiding change or opposing change because we think we can’t handle it.

But for most of us the problem isn’t change per se, it’s our inability to work through change because we’re struggling with parts of our childhood.

30 May, 2019

2 thoughts on “Coping with change

  1. Dealing with change isn’t something I cope well with, whether it’s a good or bad thing, considering the way I grew up.

    There was always chaos and insanity going on, so any changes that happened were usually bad and there usually wasn’t much we could do about.

    I ended up with a sense of learned helplessness where nothing I did was going to change things, which is how it’s been for most of my life.

    It is quite an extreme transition now, me being in a position where I don’t have anyone telling me how to live my life. I have to get used to having a freedom I haven’t ever known.

    Hard to believe that I can make changes for the better and I don’t have to feel guilty about it anymore.

    1. Thanks Randy. I love that you got there, it doesn’t matter how long it took. The important thing is you’re there and happier for it.

      Growing up in a dysfunctional family is more common than you think, but it’s good you’re coming through the other end and coping with some of the changes you’ve been able to make.

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