Cultivating relationships with family members is never easy, but the key to those relationships is being able to love each other unconditionally and being able to agree to disagree, without wanting to control or change each other in the process.
How many of us have actually been evaluating our relationships for a while, but have never done anything about it? Cutting ties to any relationship, brings with it feelings of guilt, doubt and failure. It’s a difficult decision to call, but invariably we may take the easy route by doing nothing, then suffer in silence; bringing more stress back into our lives. Sound familiar?
A long line of history in a relationship is sometimes why we find it hard to cut ties, but having history behind us in effect can help us make more informed choices about those relationships. It is in these circumstances that it is made easier for us to cut ties, if we need to.
Pointers to consider:
- The relationship causes too much stress and infringes on aspects of your own life, including work and home, or your every move is consumed in sour thoughts of the relationship;
- The relationship seems to go one way; it’s too much effort to keep the relationship afloat at your end and there’s no effort coming in from the other side;
- There is only negativity coming from the relationship. Your partner calls to bring you down with harsh words, actions or deeds, but there’s no letup;
- You always give in to what the other person wants and in turn they manipulate and expose you when they don’t get their own way.
I personally don’t see that walking away from a relationship means either person have failed. Sometimes our lives have to fit and with each other. If we get to that stage, I see it as being a mature decision that will help both people grow as individuals.
It’s often not a decision taken lightly, but if walking away fundamentally brings peace and tranquility back into our lives, then that has to be a good thing.
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