As individuals we work relationships differently. Some of us may be happy to cut ties, others may be afraid to cut ties for fear of reprisal.
The following may go some way to avoiding stress associated with relationships, with or without cutting ties:
- Make less contact through emails, visits or calls. Putting space between you, will allow you make clear minded decisions on how that other person has been affecting you;
- Put your boundaries in place. If you feel cutting ties would be too drastic, one or two conciliatory ultimatums are fine. They make a point;
- Always keep conversations neutral. If you know certain subjects are trigger points, avoid them and try to keep anything you do talk about neutral;
- Cutting ties is like a bereavement, but without the closure. Anything that reminds you of lost contact will be difficult, but expecting difficulties emotionally will help prepare you;
- Having a good support system in place always helps, should you decide to cut ties.
It is never an easy decision to cut ties and for some that would usually be a last resort, if at all. There’s a saying that says: ‘it’s better to come from a broken home than to live in one.’ Relationships whether you live at home or not, tend to work the same way.
If the relationship isn’t working it’s, time to rethink. Apprehension and fear both play their part in our decisions to stay, but once we take the first step. Fast forward, things normally work out.
Of course, all circumstances are different, with different choices that need to be made.