Dealing with depression

I was shocked when I heard about Robin Williams’ death. I am sure we all were, but his case has shown me a very different side to depression.

I’ve talked about depression before on the site, but there is another side to it that I haven’t spoken about that perhaps I should. Depression is a subject no one talks about. It’s a taboo subject. We may know people who live with it, but it’s never spoken about. It has been like that for as long as I can remember.

Society would rather brush depression under the carpet than accept it’s become part of the world we live in. Because it’s taboo we don’t talk about it. Depression affects people of all ages, and runs in families. When we struggle to deal with issues, we may end up dealing with and living with depression.

Depression can also be the symptom of something bigger. Anything we fail to deal with in the longer term that we’re unable to cope with, can lead us to depression. Daily issues, dealing with a long-term illness, issues that takes us out of our comfort zone. We shouldn’t feel bad or guilty that we are different, because we deal with depression.

There also shouldn’t be a stigma attached to a mental or emotional illness and I believe that’s the problem. It hasn’t become an accepted part of society.

22 Aug, 2014

6 thoughts on “Dealing with depression

  1. Yes, depression runs in my family. I have it and my daughter has it and you’re right it shouldn’t be a stigma, a “hush-hush” topic.

    It would be helpful if more people knew about it and knew that you can live with it.

    1. Thanks Lisa. Sorry you and your daughter have depression that you deal with. I agree with your comment and have nothing more that I need to add.

  2. I think just about everyone has experienced some degree of depression from time to time; I know I have to some degree.

    It is difficult for a man to admit to succumbing to depression because it’s looked upon by society as a sign of weakness. I am constantly reminded of the importance of perception and mental covering; but depression is a disease of bondage and should be address as soon as the signs surface and without fear of being judged.

    A person’s entire image of mental stability is hammered when depression is diagnosed, which is why the subject is traditionally taboo.

    1. Thanks Tim. Unfortunately society stigmatises both men and women. I’ve personally never met any man who will admit to issues, problems or illness, whereas women are quite happy to talk about their problems. From what I know not all depression is based on mental illness.

      Unfortunately society has never accepted disability or any type of condition in the true sense, but we are getting better. It is easy to wrongly perceive mental illness, but as you so eloquently say Tim, society reminds us of ‘the importance of perception and mental covering,’ and that’s exactly what we do we ignore signs.

      As Robin Williams’ case has shown, society really does need to change how it perceives illness, but when we are constantly reminded on how we should act and/or behave it makes everything we deal with difficult and therefore we continue to remain tight-lipped about what we deal with.

      Unfortunately and as Robin Williams’ case has shown, it’s even harder for those who live in the public eye.

  3. Depression does still come with a lot of stigma attached to like an alcoholic or drug addict! I’ve dealt with it from a very young age and it has truly been one of the worst things I could think of to be forced to deal with.

    My father was an alcoholic and my mother had severe mental health issues that I don’t think were ever properly treated. It’s such a long story, but the short version is that these things definitely run in families! Considering what I have been through, there are many times I wish my parents would have never had children.

    Yes, Robin Williams’ suicide is a very sad case! The worst part is that suicide may seem like a viable option for someone who just wants to end their pain and suffering. I’ve tried many times but something always seemed to stop me and kept me alive.

    People like to ignore the elephant in the room, but what do you do when you’re living with a whole herd of them? I think (I hope) his death with be a catalyst for change, so people will talk more about depression and other mental health issues!

    They talk about gays being in the closet, but people with mental health issues get stuck there too!

    1. I agree with you. Given all that you have had to deal with, with your parents I can understand your own struggle and am sorry that you have.

      I also hope that Robin Williams’ case will highlight the case of depression because that is what certainly needs to happen. I think your last paragraph is completely relevant to everything that’s been said. I believe we all get stuck in the closet with issues that make us different in some way, but we shouldn’t have to. Society should be more accepting of everyone.

      Society isn’t great with change and adapting to change, so rather than listen and learn to deal with and accept that we’re all different and that we may need help with mental health issues, we ignore the fact that these issues exist.

      I too hope some good will come from Robin Williams’ death. Thanks Randy.

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