As a child, I kept my emotions to myself, because my childhood wasn’t a particularly happy one. Of course, things are different now because I’ve learned to deal with repressed emotions, just by talking about things.
When anyone talks about a repression of emotions, they’re talking about holding back on their emotions. It’s normally used as a means of survival, so that we don’t have to deal with our emotions, but from my own experience that only works in the short term.
Repression helps us manage our problems so that we can obtain a degree of emotional stability, particularly if we’re trying to work through painful situations, or our life becomes threatening in some way. Repression helps us block out unwanted thoughts, feelings and memories that if we were to think about would make us feel threatened or scared.
By storing those thoughts and feelings in our subconscious, we get to live our life in the short term. Repression involves denial and projecting our feelings and attention away from our conscious thoughts into our subconscious, blocking out any hurtful thoughts, but in the longer term it can never work.
Using repression is temporary. Unfortunately, our thoughts will always be there but need to be addressed so that we can live our life without holding on to issues or concerns from our past. Not addressing those will make us physically and emotionally unwell.
The problem with repression, is that we use it to avoid talking about what’s painful, but from experience however painful it is to address and talk about what we feel, we must do it so that we don’t get ill. Carrying such painful issues in the form of baggage can make us ill. I have seen that happen.
There is no quick fix to emotional healing, but us wanting to have a go is a good place to start. Consciously we need to tap into our subconscious emotions we constantly put on the back burner. We need to allow ourselves to respond on some of those bad experiences, so that we learn to tackle any problems in the present moment.
If we can learn to perceive and deal with our problems, we will get to live our life and live it well, without becoming ill from all the hurtful memories that in the longer term serve to hurt us more.