As a child, I held back and kept my emotions to myself, partly because no one was listening and partly because my childhood wasn’t a happy one. It was my coping mechanism.
When we talk about ‘repression of emotions,’ we are talking about holding our emotions back. It’s a means of survival so that we don’t have to deal with uncomfortable emotions. It’s a technique used temporarily to help us manage our issues, so that we can obtain emotional stability through painful situations.
Repression helps us block out unwanted thoughts, feelings and memories that if we were to think about would make us first feel irritated and upset. It involves projecting our feelings and attention away from our conscious thoughts into our subconscious, blocking out hurtful memories. Using repression must only be used temporarily.
It is important we tap into our subconscious and deal with the emotions we constantly put on the back burner, so that we can tackle issues head on. Not talking or addressing issues can seem like the easy way out, but eventually the issues we ignore will begin to make us physically and emotionally sick.
There is no quick fix to emotional healing, but actually wanting to heal is a good place to start.