Having a Diploma in Stress Management gives me more understanding of how my own stress works. Taking my stress away helps me deal with my physical issues, and also allows me to focus on staying positive so that I can make better decisions, particularly around my health.
I believe there are ways to deal with stress. For example, not being afraid to say no to unreasonable demands from family, particularly if we feel their demands are likely to create more stress. Perhaps we need to think about whether what they’re asking is fair. If the demand was placed on someone else, would you see it as fair?
As a child I never said no. But if what family are asking isn’t right, then we need to say no, but with reasons rather than a list of excuses. We are refusing the request, not the person. Or maybe a compromise can be reached; we could try offering an alternative. If the time isn’t right but the request is, an explanation will help the other person understand why it can’t be done when they want.
Perhaps we must look at the issues and the people that are causing us stress. Rather than wait for the stress to pass, we must deal with it when we experience it. Things always feel different with the benefit of hindsight.
We must try to manage the issues that are causing us unnecessary stress. Plan new and positive experiences, so that we can focus on what we have to gain. Be honest with ourselves so that we understand what we’re finding stressful, even if someone else might see it as trivial. It’s not for them to judge.