Stress is a physical response to something we’re mentally struggling with. If not dealt with, it can affect how we think, feel and behave on a conscious and subconscious level. Although we’re not always aware of it, the mind and body constantly interact. If we’re struggling mentally, this can have a direct physical effect.
Stress is a state of emotional or mental strain, or tension, resulting from demanding and adverse circumstances. Stress isn’t tangible, we can’t touch it, but it’s there, and not always when we expect.
When it comes to stress, I have to think about and deal with each issue as it arises. Because I deal with autism, the more I struggle to work through an issue the bigger the issue gets, the more I mentally struggle, the more anxiety I deal with, the more panicked I feel.
Taking stress away helps me deal with my emotional and physical issues with more ease. It also allows me to focus on staying positive, so that I can make better decisions, particularly around health issues.
I believe there are ways for us to deal with and limit stress. For example, saying ‘no’ to unreasonable demands from family, particularly if their demands are likely to create more stress. We need to think about whether what they’re asking is fair. If the demand was placed on someone else, would we see it as fair?
As children, we’re not always able to say no. But if what family are asking isn’t right, then we need to say no, but also to give reasons rather than a list of excuses. We are refusing the request, not the person. A compromise must be reached… we could try offering an alternative. If the time isn’t right but the request is, an explanation will help the other person understand why.
We must look at the issues and the people that are causing us stress. Rather than wait for stress to pass, we must deal with it when we experience it. Things always feel different with the benefit of hindsight.
We also need to manage the issues that are causing us unnecessary stress. Plan new and positive experiences, so that we can focus on what we have to gain. We must be honest with ourselves so that we understand what we’re finding stressful, even if someone else might see it as trivial. It’s not for them to judge.