Deceit is something many of us may grapple with. In the real world, lying continues to exist in our everyday and in our personal lives. Deceit comes in many forms.
Deceit is bad, but made worse if you’re on the other side of it and it happens around family. But however, you choose to define deceit, one size doesn’t fit all. When someone seeks to promote a belief, concept, or idea against someone they have an issue with that is untrue, things can never work out.
To understand why people choose to be deceitful, you need to look at the underlying reasons why, being conservative with the truth, or telling you what they want you to hear counts. I say choose because everything we do is by choice, whether it’s a conscious or an unconscious choice.
There are various reasons why. The primary reason is jealously, they may also be trying to fool others for their own personal gain, because they believe others owe them that privilege. It is a falsehood, but it is symptomatic of childhood. Other times, they have their own agenda and they don’t care to change.
When deceit is allowed to continue, and it does so over a period of years it becomes a ‘web of deceit.’ People who choose to lie are abusive, toxic and manipulative, they show a lack of remorse and often blames others when conflict arises. They have difficulty relating to others. It’s as if they are ready to lie about everything.
The reality is that with work on ourselves, we can all choose to change. Change is open to all of us. We have to want to change to do better, to be better people.