Imagine how much better you’ll feel not carrying another person’s guilt. But that’s what we do. During a lifetime, we will carry issues and guilt, regardless of whether those things belong to us.
It’s only when we look back of course that we can see the madness unfold. It’s not so much the things that are said, it’s also the things that aren’t said that could have been said that would dramatically change how you see yourself.
To me it was obvious what everyone thought of my efforts and lack of achievement. In a way that helped. But where family are disappointed, they won’t always say, and we’re still left to pick up the pieces on our own.
I was treading water for many years until I grasped an opportunity for me to find out what I had been dealing with for all those years. Then through my black and white thinking that I didn’t know I had, my perceptions changed overnight and so did my world.
That no matter what our issues or experiences are, we owe it to ourselves to want to be better. We must work on ourselves to do and be better, to know that we finally deserve better. Knowing we deserve better is closure.