We spend our lives putting things right with difficult people, adapting and making things good, because we feel we have little choice.
Those difficult people we have a connection with, will draw themselves to us because they know they can manipulate, because we will always try to please. I am sure all of us will have had at least one person in our lives, who emulates this behaviour.
Difficult people will always project their feelings on to us, as if their feelings are ours. On our part after a while, we’ll start to believe it’s us. They will project their anger on to us, fail to take responsibility and will continue to pass the buck.
They will also project their feelings on to us, because we’re too afraid to walk away and because we let them. On our part, because we feel we have to put things right, we will continue to defend and justify ourselves because it’s what we’ve known and what we’ve always done.
We need to be clear on what belongs to us. We mustn’t let difficult people think we must justify ourselves, or own what doesn’t belong to us. We’re not responsible for how other people make us feel. They will always have us bending over backwards in endless attempts to please them, if we let them.
We should stop trying to please them and physically walk away. When it comes to family, if we can’t walk away, then we should come back in when they stop being difficult.