Difficulties in letting go

We have difficulties in letting go either because we’re not consciously aware we’re holding on to bad patterns that stop us from letting go, we know we’re holding on, but don’t know how to let go.

The path to happiness is never straight forward, but for those of us who are brave enough to face it, it’s a path that will bring us the most peace. First, we must learn to let go of the attitudes that hold us back; the emotions we depend on and the baggage we bring into our relationships from our past. Although it may be difficult at times to let go, it’s not impossible.

I believe we must learn to change our habits from a place where we’re happy to let go of those habits and not from a place of need. When we come from that place and are able to let go in this way, I believe we will have already overcome some of our problems in our mind.

We must also continue to let go of the things we continually think are important, which in the bigger scheme of things are really not important. Perhaps at the same time we should learn to separate the things that are absolutely necessary from the things that aren’t necessary at all, in other words the things we don’t really need but want.

For some of us though, letting go of certain aspects of our past works well, for others that’s not always the case. We must at least try to clear our minds of the clutter that firmly belongs in our past. When we finally free our minds, we will always see those past events objectively without holding on to the feelings of anger and bitterness associated with our experiences.

I believe that will be when you’ll know you no longer have difficulty in letting go.

21 Jun, 2014

4 thoughts on “Difficulties in letting go

  1. I have a problem of letting go, but it’s not bad things. It’s the good stuff and we shouldn’t let go of the good things like memories.

    I learned from my mom to let go of the bad stuff and I usually don’t hold on to it anymore like I did once. I would dwell on the past especially the mistakes.The things people would do to me or say to me that wasn’t nice. was always in the back of my mind but I’ve learned to let it go. I’m happier that way.

    I do have a problem with holding on to objects. I have so much stuff that belonged to my parents or grandparents, but I just can’t let go of it.

    I know it’s only stuff, but it’s good things that bring the good memories.

    1. Thanks Lisa. You said it Lisa! You still have the good memories even if you don’t have the objects. All our memories are stored in our minds, objects we once had, conversations gone, happy times. They are all there.

      I think sometimes we can hold on to too much and although it’s lovely to hold on to some things, it’s also important to let go.

  2. There are a lot of things that I have a hard time letting go of, but I know I need to so that I can have some peace of mind on a daily basis.

    Someone once said that we have to “Let go or be dragged!” which seemed to make a lot of sense! I’ve lost so much in my life from not being able to let things go and just deal with things the way they were. I’ve given up many opportunities to be really happy, because I couldn’t get beyond my fears and taking the risk to do so!

    I have never had an easy life nor do I ever expect to, but it would be nice to be able to enjoy some of it while I still have time left!

    1. Thanks Randy. I also used to have a hard time letting things go, but I came to realise that the only person I was hurting was me. At the end of the day it only ever comes down to us.

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