Telling people what they want to hear, rather than what they need to hear. Not the best move. Telling someone what they want to hear isn’t the same thing and shouldn’t be confused with telling them what they need to hear.
For some, it may not only make our situation worse, but for others it may interfere with their relationship too. Although someone may be disappointed by what you’re telling them, others may be more disillusioned if what they need to hear isn’t what they’re being told and their situation doesn’t work out as a consequence.
People tend to have more respect for those who are honest with them, instead of just coming up with something that sounds about right. I have never bought into this philosophy myself. I remember a situation where a friend of my brother had his hair cut and someone blurting out that it was the worst hair-cut he’d ever seen.
At the time, I remember thinking how horrible that was and although it was a blunt response that didn’t need to happen, there was no doubt in my mind there would have been a more tactful way to deal with the situation. Tact and diplomacy is all it would have taken, to turn that situation around.
Obviously, the above example is different, but it’s not always that what we say is bad, but how what’s said is received that usually offends. If the other person takes what you say the wrong way, they probably would have taken it the wrong way anyway.
I would rather be told something that didn’t match up to my own thoughts and feelings. For me it’s all about honesty and integrity. Telling us what we need to hear incorporates both.