We spend our formative years doing the right thing, but is doing the right thing the right thing to do? The right thing may not be the right thing for someone else, even though it’s right for you.
Doing the right thing may also be the wrong thing for the person doing the right thing. I got into the habit of feeling bad for not saying ‘no’ so never did, but I also know it’s not always easy to say ‘no’ when someone asks.
Looking back, doing the right thing never got me to a place where I could at least function. The problem with doing the right thing for other people when it isn’t right for us is that we end up living someone’s else life.
We will fail to develop emotionally and individually living someone else’s live. Unfortunately, putting others first means there also isn’t a thought process to it. Someone else makes the decisions, all we have to do is say ‘yes’ and turn up.
Doing the right thing, means we accept other people’s thoughts and feelings rather than our own. Doing the right thing also means that we’re putting our own life on hold, instead of being pro-active for ourselves.
It’s fine for us to do the right thing every now and again, but we must please ourselves first. It’s our life, we have to live it how we deem fit.