I spent my formative years doing the right thing by family, but is doing the right thing, the right thing to do?
Not all circumstances fit. The right thing may not be the right thing for someone else, even though it’s right for you. Doing the right thing may also be the wrong thing for the person doing the right thing. I got into the habit of feeling bad for saying No so never did, but I also know it’s not always easy to say No when someone asks.
Looking back, doing the right thing gave me a chance to find a place, a place where I could at least function. Not doing the right thing would have been harder for me, given all the things I was dealing with. Of course, the problem with doing the right thing for other people when it isn’t right for us is that we end up living someone’s else life.
Looking back none of it was right for me. I failed to develop emotionally and individually. Unfortunately, putting others first means there also isn’t a thought process to it. Someone else makes the decisions, all we have to do is say ‘Yes’ and turn up.
The problem of doing the right thing over the years, meant I would always accept other people’s thoughts and feelings rather than my own. Doing the right thing also meant that I was putting my own life on hold, instead of being pro-active for myself.
Finally, it’s fine to do the right thing every now and again, but that we should please ourselves first. After all it’s our life, we have to live it how we deem fit.