I know many people who live behind their egos. An ego is a façade; it’s a mask, but it’s not who we really are.

It’s the part of us that’s constantly trying to impress other people. No one without an ego wants to compete with another person’s ego. Having to compete with another person’s ego can make for very difficult relationships.

One problem with egos is that they can become over-inflated, as they tend to be self-perpetuating. People with egos generally are insecure, often feel inadequate and have very little confidence, but outwardly will show others their secure and confident side. Anyone trying to impress who feeds off an already inflated ego, will usually fail to make an impact on anyone in a positive way.

Unless we inwardly feel good about ourselves, being flattered by a compliment will continue to feed the ego. The ego loves to be praised. It’s lovely to be praised by other people’s comments, but if we don’t inwardly feel good about ourselves, being praised and complimented will only serve to make us feel more insecure about ourselves. ‘If we feel good in our soul, we will feel good in ourselves not through our egos.’

In an already fragile world, where we’re all trying to work on our relationships, there can be no place for an ego, let alone an over-inflated one. It’s sad when anyone feels the need to hide behind their ego. We need to be ourselves.

17 Nov, 2012

6 thoughts on “Egos

  1. My ego doesn’t really exist. I enjoy praise as much as the next person but growing up I didn’t get much praise from my parents or others.

    I’ve known a lot of people with over-inflated egos and they are not at all appealing like they think they are. They think they are charming and smart, but I guess they are trying to make up for what they don’t have.

    1. It’s good that you don’t have an Ego Lisa, but from what you say it’s clearly not right that you got no praise either. No-one is born a misfit, it’s what other people make us because they cannot deal with themselves and their own insecurities.

      I believe you’re right and I agree with you that people with over-inflated egos do think they’re smart and charming and not at all appealing, but that usually comes from their own insecurities which they’re good at hiding.

  2. My ego was crushed at a very early age,and I tried to put on whatever masks I could to make people happy at the time.

    My Brother was the one who was good at sports, good looking and had all the girls after him while I was (quite literally) the 98 pound weakling! I always felt like I was living in his shadow and couldn’t possibly compete with him,so I gave up a great part of my ego to feel like I didn’t have one.

    I’m at the point in my life where I don’t really know who or what I am. It’s going to be very difficult to rebuild my ego when I’ve never really known what it’s like to have one!

    1. Randy you’re describing a picture that many children go through, growing up around their siblings. I had it too. That said, I think it is for all parents (including myself) to make sure that their children feel good about themselves. We all aspire to different things, none of us are better than the other.

      I also believe that having an Ego is a substitute for a lack of many other things including confidence and insecurities. It is usually an indication of an over-inflated idea of ones own self-importance. None of us should want or aspire to an Ego.

  3. I have worked with two people in particular who have huge egos and interestingly both of whom have failed in their business ventures.

    In my view there is simply no room for ego. As you say it is usually there due to some personal inadequacy, but is inherently damaging in any relationship; personal or professional.

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