Embracing change

1 Oct 2016

The thing about change is that it has to happen to allow for spiritual and emotional growth.

Throughout our lives, we will either welcome and learn to embrace change, or we will spend our lives avoiding it in the hope that we never have to make decisions that incorporate change. The irony of course is that we can never avoid change. It comes whether we embrace it or not.

So why is change so hard?

I believe it has to do with how we’re parented. We emulate and follow patterns that we don’t stop to question or try to understand. If we’re not encouraged to think outside the box, we find it hard to change.

Change creates uncertainty. It’s human nature to want to go against the things that bring us more uncertainty and apprehension. To deal with change we must be confident and open to the possibilities of change.

Being open not only helps us have more understanding, but more understanding helps us embrace change. When we get to the place where we feel we need a change, then we are ready to think about and embrace change. When we’re at our most confident when we’re well past our teenage years, but it tends to decline later on, as we age.

There are people who never choose to embrace change, because they’re less open to new experiences, primarily because of the potential chaos that change will bring to their daily routines. In order for us to think about change, we have to fundamentally change our attitude towards change. Not to means we can never change our thinking, presently or otherwise.

It’s often our attitude that keeps us stuck and set in our ways. When we open our mind to life and its possibilities, we are more likely to embrace the concept of change and change itself, because we will want to change. Change is a mindset thing.

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  1. Tim 01. Oct, 2016 at 8:15 pm #

    I used to have a problem embracing change until I realized that resisting change was like struggling against the wind.

    I guess I didn’t want change to look too hard at me and tamper with my anxiety.

    • Ilana 01. Oct, 2016 at 8:37 pm #

      Your first paragraph is spot on Tim. The irony is that life brings about anxiety whether we embrace change or not.

      I would rather work through change and try to deal with anxiety than stagnate, particularly when we resist change, want to change but not know how to go about change.

      Emotionally, that in itself will bring about anxiety. Perhaps our anxiety is already there. There will always be something that we have to deal with tips us over the edge, in terms of anxiety.

  2. Bonnie 02. Oct, 2016 at 5:14 am #

    This is great! To me, it explains why people can have high anxiety and uncertainties in life.

    I knew a man, that hated change. He told me he can’t function at all when things are different. Change can be a scary Thing, or sometimes a blessing. I believe change is a lot of the battle we deal with daily on earth.

    • Ilana 02. Oct, 2016 at 6:42 am #

      Thanks Bonnie. Yes, unfortunately even through our battles we will still end up with having to deal with change. Everything is fluid and moves on. We have to be able to move on with it.

      What you have described Bonnie I believe to be true. I also know of someone who doesn’t like change. Although there seems to be a common theme around people’s inability to change, I think it too important to ignore.

      I think your first paragraph is absolutely true. We have more anxiety trying to deal with the thought of change, than we would do with change itself.

      As you say change can be scary, because it takes us from the familiar to the unfamiliar and that always brings about apprehension and uncertainties; and those create the anxiety we feel.

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