Emotional clutter

Emotional clutter is something we all have. With a barrage of things outstanding that constantly need addressing, with the pressures of everyday life etched firmly in our minds. With family that have their own opinions and give us a hard time, with past mistakes haunting us, it’s not surprising that the anxious feelings we get are that of emotional clutter.

It depends on what I’m dealing with as to how I get rid of mine. If I’m dealing with a situation that makes me feel threatened or insecure, space between me and the other person is always a good idea. I tend to take time out until such a time I’m strong enough to move forward again.

As a child, I used to carry lots of emotional clutter, but as the adult some of the old baggage gives me clarity and a new direction. Over the years I have slowly taught myself how to turn all the mental clutter into a to do list that helps me in my daily life.

I believe we need to mentally challenge our thoughts whilst simultaneously working at changing our circumstances to incorporate less stress. We literally have no choice sometimes, as it’s often our lifestyle that plays a part in how we feel and cope with things.

The more understanding we are, the less emotional clutter we will have, in the same way if we problem solve, we’re less likely to hold on to emotional clutter. We should want to change our circumstances. Expecting the emotional clutter to just disappear is a pipe dream that can never happen.

We need to be instrumental in our lives, we must work through the emotional clutter. That very much is key.

18 Nov, 2012

6 thoughts on “Emotional clutter

  1. I carry emotional clutter like crazy.

    With so much going on in my life I’m always thinking of something and then there are times that my mind won’t let a particular problem go and even though I’m talking to someone about something else or praying, that certain subject is in the back of my mind nagging at me.

    I have a hard time letting go of something until it’s resolved, but there are things I realize that won’t ever be resolved and I just have to let them go.

    1. Ditto on your thoughts. This was me many years ago until I learned to channel my thoughts and do things completely differently.

      I know confidence and self-esteem have a lot to do with the way we think and feel about ourselves. The less we have of both, the more likely we are to carry all the emotional stuff.

      I believe we all can do this. This isn’t something that is open to me. ‘Don’t sweat the small stuff.’ We have to let go of the small stuff, deal with the bigger stuff and ultimately learn to differentiate between the two.

      I also believe that when we learn what’s important, who is important and who isn’t, we’ll start to let go of the emotional clutter. We also have to let go of our guilt too. Whilst the majority of us hold on to guilt, we will also hold on to the emotional stuff. I believe that much is true.

  2. I deal with quite a lot of this which usually makes it sound like I’m at a party with lots of people talking around me! (No, I don’t mean hearing voices!)

    There are times when people say something to me and I don’t always catch the whole statement because I’m not able to fully concentrate on what they’re saying. It has gotten a lot better than it used to be, since I have been sober for 10 years now.

    I know it would help tremendously if i could get rid of a lot of my clutter, like the nagging questions of what I should or shouldn’t have done in my life. I’m hoping that as long as I continue working on it, that I can get rid of a lot of the clutter in my head!

    1. I think you’re probably not alone Randy, truly!

      I have also had my fair share of feeling guilt (guilt was my middle name!) about my past. When we’re little we assume a parents’ role is to guide and support their children and as children we never stop to question it.

      From what you say Randy that didn’t happen. We often deviate because we feel we have no choice. With the right support you would have taken a different path, that I am sure of.

      It’s the easiest thing in the world to continue to beat ourselves up about the things we didn’t do, didn’t achieve, but holding on to all of those old thoughts will stop you from making new choices in your life.

      Perhaps now it’s time to let go so that you can begin to think new thoughts about what you would like to achieve in your life. Forget what you didn’t achieve, think about what you can achieve and clear your emotional clutter for good on those thoughts.

  3. I can relate to both of your posts.

    Over the years, rumination used to be major problem for me. I wouldn’t let go of something for extended period of time. I’ve worked on not allowing things to bother me as much and not dwelling on what is now in the past.

    It’s easier said than done of course, but it has greatly improved. Changing the direction and path of my thoughts has helped me address that as well as learning how to better manage my own thoughts.

    1. Thanks LeAnna. This used to me too as a little girl too. I agree with your thoughts; changing the direction and path of our thoughts certainly helps and knowing how to manage the thoughts that come into our head.

      It took me a long while to understand and learn the process. Confidence, keeping myself busy so I didn’t dwell on things helped as did understanding and coming to terms with my past.

      I’m so pleased things are better for you.

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