Emotional detachment

Without incorporating emotional boundaries between the people we have come to rely on, people will start to take advantage.

It may not be something they wittingly do, but we must all recognise our need to be healthy and to do that we must emotionally detach. It’s not up to us to fix, heal or change others, but we do need to accept that people from time to time may use toxic behaviour towards us.

If that is the case, then we must emotionally detach and find a way to do it. We also need to do it without carrying the burden of separation or guilt. Boundaries then need to be implemented so that we can start to make our own decisions away from the people we have detached from.

We need to minimise the emotional impact other people have on us. It may be that once we take control, we won’t feel the need to attach any more. We tend to attach ourselves to others as compensation, when we have little to no confidence in ourselves, or we fail to believe in our abilities, or ourselves.

7 Mar, 2011

8 thoughts on “Emotional detachment

  1. I agree with Randy, there are many good points in today’s blog.

    I had to read it a few times to take it all in; but I guess what you’re saying is that we are responsible for ourselves and we not have to let others dictate our lives for us. I certainly agree with that.

  2. It’s definitely something that develops over time.

    I’ve been very good at detaching from the way I grew up, but I’m trying to stay beyond that now.

    I have to try and remember that I’m responsible for my own life and have the ability to control my own life.

    1. Randy, emotional detachment can develop over time, but we are the ones who can develop it.

      I believe that once you get to the stage where you are aware that you are able to detach so that you are in control of your thoughts and feelings, the more you will feel in control of your life.

      We detach because we feel the need to detach. You will work it through as you go along. Thank you for posting.

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