When emotional events are unprocessed in childhood, then viewed as an adult they will always be seen from a child’s point of view. As long as those emotional events remain unprocessed, they will stay unprocessed.
But it is important that we deal with all experiences in childhood so that as we grow, we understand our experiences enough so that our perceptions will change. The idea is that we start seeing emotional events through an adult’s perspective.
It is also important we deal with emotional events in childhood because if left unprocessed, those responses will start to appear from nowhere. We could be playing a song on the radio that triggers a memory, with an emotion we were feeling when we heard the tune. Low points are also known to bring back emotional events that we have failed to process.
Also, experiences in our early years bring up a lot of unprocessed emotions that we won’t always know were harbouring. They’re there, it’s important we acknowledge them. Emotional responses will always feel daunting until such a time we emotionally work through them and we must.
When we come to understand why an event or experience happens, it’s easier for us to accept it and move on. It is our understanding of something that shifts our perceptions that puts us into a much healthier place. But we must have an open-mind otherwise our thoughts will remain locked.
Any unprocessed emotional event from our past that we don’t deal with will always be part of our present. The irony is that most of us emotionally live in the past with emotional events that we’ve not processed, but physically live in the present.