Emotional needs

Our emotional needs are met when we feel loved, valued, feel safe, feel we have control and feel we have a purpose. As a child living with a disability, I was aware of just how important it was for me to have my emotional needs met.

When they’re not met, we may become vulnerable to emotional issues and addictive behaviours. Ignoring our feelings means our discomfort will increase and that will dominate our attention, until we feel compelled to act.

We must be aware of how we feel. Our emotional needs are met when we are in tune with what we feel and think. We must continue to work at feeling happy and confident.

Without our lives having meaning, we will feel less motivated, and that invites anxiety, emotional distress, depression and other addictions through the back door.

Neglecting our psychological needs will always result in us feeling emotionally and psychologically drained. A feeling that is designed to make us sit up and take action, for us to create satisfaction and for us to find contentment in ourselves.

We must resist the temptation of moving away from our basic needs to be replaced with us wanting more of the material kind. We overlook the importance of mindfulness, the connection between the mind, body and soul.

Emotional feedback very much depends on what we’re getting back. Seeing to our emotional needs is important even more important through these difficult ‘Corona’ times and must not be ignored.


13 May, 2020

2 thoughts on “Emotional needs

  1. My emotional needs as a child weren’t important seeing as it was more important to make sure that my mother had her needs met.

    The only purpose and meaning in my life was dependent on making someone else happy, but I didn’t have any idea of how to take care of my own emotional needs.

    It seems very strange that I’m trying to focus on taking care of my own needs more. It’ll be interesting to see through the other end what taking care of my own needs looks like.

    To know what if feels like to be happy and to be able to enjoy my life.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, I can resonate. I have been where you have been over the years, slightly different circumstances.

      Our emotional needs are an ongoing process. But our lives can and will change with continual work on ourselves. I think you’ve come further than you know. Emotional growth is continual.

      Coming through the other end takes time, patience and understanding on our part. Slightly more difficult in these coronavirus times, but perhaps that’s our lesson also.

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