Emotionally distressed

Other people’s distress may infect our emotions within moments of us being in their company. After some exposure to emotionally distressed people, we may begin to feel distressed ourselves. When we recognise our own stress, we will find it easier to recognise stress in others.

Some emotionally distressed people will remain distressed, rather than deal with their emotions: we all know that dealing with our feelings is not easy. But despite all attempts from us to help them, some people would rather not change. Instead, they will continue to make excuses or blame other people for their lives, making everything about others and nothing about themselves. Everything becomes personal.

They will avoid taking responsibility for themselves, even if their state of mind makes them ill, although, in their defence, they won’t always know their problem is emotional distress. That said, emotionally distressed people can grow into healthier people, just by staying open-minded and accepting they may need help. It is important we all take responsibility for our emotional health and our behaviour.

Stress isn’t tangible, it’s not something you can see or touch, but you can learn to recognise its signs. Unfortunately, stress will impact relationships more than any of us acknowledge, or are aware. Because stress has become part of everyday life, we’ve almost become immune to its warning signs and symptoms. It’s easier to see stress in others than it is to recognise it in ourselves.

Even when we manage and deal with our own stress, other people’s stress can affect us. It’s hard when others don’t recognise their own stress, but think we are the catalyst of theirs. In today’s society that aspect of stress is commonplace.

Stress will always show up in verbal and non-verbal communication, especially in quarrels and arguments. In some cases, when stress is left undetected, it can make you feel disconnected from others. Stress can create anger and may even cause depression and isolation in those who already have a pre-disposition.

It is important we learn to recognise the signs and symptoms of stress in ourselves, and equally important we don’t carry other people’s.


17 Aug, 2017

4 thoughts on “Emotionally distressed

  1. There’s nothing abnormal about pain, but I’m just as concerned as anyone else how someone’s behavior may affect me. I just listen to warnings and try to find ways to avoid unnecessary negativity.

    But when that sensation comes over me to help someone, I will certainly do it.

    1. Thanks Tim. Having lived my life around emotionally distressed people I know what it’s like to continually adjust to the warning signs; they become second nature after a while.

      It obviously depends on the circumstances and whether we can move away from negativity. Some of us are sadly, not always that lucky.

      I would always advocate helping others, but through experience we learn how others respond or relate to us and whether we are able to help them. When it comes to family, it’s made all the harder.

  2. Boy, if that doesn’t explain it all! This is what I have been doing subconsciously for the longest time, without even really realizing it. ‘You live what you know’ is the expression I finally figured out and it makes perfect sense when you look at why so many people stay in crappy relationships and the like.

    We’re so used to the chaos that we become, like the adrenaline junkies who need their fix all the time or else they don’t know what to do with themselves.

    There are also those who make the conscious decision to live in the chaos, even at the expense of their health and well-being, because they actually like it.

    They are the ones who you can’t help, because they don’t want to be helped and don’t think they really have any problems. What I have to do now is break away from the chaos and insanity by any means necessary and never look back.

    1. Thanks Randy. I think your last paragraph sums up your response and you’re right, there are people who sometimes don’t want to be helped, primarily because they don’t see themselves as the problem.

      If they were to think about things, they would know that on some level they do have issues that need sorting out. I don’t believe anyone is free or issues, or negative experiences.

      Negative experiences sadly will always bring about a negative life, until we change that of course.

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