Other people’s distress may infect our emotions within moments of us being in their company. After some exposure to emotionally distressed people, we may begin to feel distressed ourselves. When we recognise our own stress, we will find it easier to recognise stress in others.
Some emotionally distressed people will remain distressed, rather than deal with their emotions: we all know that dealing with our feelings is not easy. But despite all attempts from us to help them, some people would rather not change. Instead, they will continue to make excuses or blame other people for their lives, making everything about others and nothing about themselves. Everything becomes personal.
They will avoid taking responsibility for themselves, even if their state of mind makes them ill, although, in their defence, they won’t always know their problem is emotional distress. That said, emotionally distressed people can grow into healthier people, just by staying open-minded and accepting they may need help. It is important we all take responsibility for our emotional health and our behaviour.
Stress isn’t tangible, it’s not something you can see or touch, but you can learn to recognise its signs. Unfortunately, stress will impact relationships more than any of us acknowledge, or are aware. Because stress has become part of everyday life, we’ve almost become immune to its warning signs and symptoms. It’s easier to see stress in others than it is to recognise it in ourselves.
Even when we manage and deal with our own stress, other people’s stress can affect us. It’s hard when others don’t recognise their own stress, but think we are the catalyst of theirs. In today’s society that aspect of stress is commonplace.
Stress will always show up in verbal and non-verbal communication, especially in quarrels and arguments. In some cases, when stress is left undetected, it can make you feel disconnected from others. Stress can create anger and may even cause depression and isolation in those who already have a pre-disposition.
It is important we learn to recognise the signs and symptoms of stress in ourselves, and equally important we don’t carry other people’s.