We all have different ways of coping and dealing with our emotions, conditioned through cultural experiences and our upbringing, which both play a pivotal part.
For example, those who live in Mediterranean countries express themselves openly over losing a loved one, whereas those from Northern European countries, may be encouraged or expected to grieve by themselves; away from the public gaze so as not to offend or cause others to feel uncomfortable.
But all emotions, negative and positive expressions must play their part in today’s world. They must be expressed, because not to expression our emotions will not only bring disharmony into the equation, but illness also. We must.
It is the most natural thing in the world to feel anger, to feel anxious, to feel sadness, in the same way it is to feel joy, excitement and contentment. Like getting dressed, learning to express should be natural, but it isn’t. We learn to shut off. That it’s wrong to express how we feel.
But the way we view the world has implications for our health. Research has shown that those of us who hold on to problems, who withdraw, who blame themselves and carrying guilt, who very rarely cry or get angry, may be more prone to “immune-related disorders.”
Blaming others, doesn’t deal with the root cause of why we feel anger and can start to compromise our health in the longer term. For us to stay well, we must take and be in control of our emotions and learn to stay in control of them.