Evaluating anger

Although being angry can make us irritable, changes our personality and the thought process that deals with our emotions, being angry may also means we set ourselves up to fail.

Why we’re angry is inconsequential to the anger itself, but anger isn’t always who we are, it’s who we become. Anger is its own karma. If we deliberately set out with intent to deceive or are malicious towards someone that intent will create karma, whether karma is good or bad.

In other words, good intent creates good karma, bad intent creates bad karma. The universe knows our motive, whether we try to hide the motive or not and are therefore judged by our actions. Every action has a reaction and an effect.

If we’re setting ourselves up to fail because we’re angry, perhaps then we need to find a way to address our anger, to change that.

15 Sep, 2016

8 thoughts on “Evaluating anger

  1. This was an emotion that I was forced to suppress as a child, so I never really learned how to deal with anger properly.

    I was always so angry and did things that made me hate myself, so that’s one of the major reasons I started drinking. I eventually learned how to dissociate from my feelings, but that meant not feeling anything, good or bad.

    I’m pretty sure I would have been a step away from being a sociopath like Norman Bates if I would have continued the path that I was on. The biggest problem that I have is not always being able to understand where the anger is coming from, since I have buried so much of it.

    This is why I have to stay so focused on being in control emotionally, so I don’t blow up like I used to.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, your last sentence sums up your response nicely. It’s important for us to stay focused so that we are in control of our emotions, but we also have to understand our emotions.

      Even if we are in control of our emotions, it doesn’t mean the trauma we have experienced goes away. All issues must be successfully addressed before they take a hold of our emotions.

      You clearly had your own issues as a child Randy. Not your fault. Given how your parents parented you, it’s clear that your anger was very much down to your parents.

      That said, we must always try to stay in control of our feelings; but must also deal with any issues.

  2. My anger issues were magnified by whiskey when I was a young man. But even through those bloodshot eyes, I visioned a peaceful coexistence with myself and the world around me; I didn’t want to be angry all my life.

    But, beyond that, I wanted to see things clearly, not through whiskey, anger or through a society that pushes us to extremes. So I simply ignored my demons and declared my own religion of peace.

    1. Thanks Tim. From your response it sounds as though you instinctively knew then that you didn’t want to live with anger.

      What you did was difficult because when we fail to recognise, think about or acknowledge our demons, those demons invariably do come back. I’m not sure we can totally ignore our demons. They tend to stay on the back burner until we deal with them.

      We also need to move away from the things that cause us the most pain. When we live with gentle reminders, it’s hard to find peace. When we’re at our most stressed those reminders tend to come back. I commend you for achieving that.

  3. Thanks Ilana. My peace with me is in progress. It really helps when you listen to us with the utmost respect; we see the fruit in our lives because of it.

  4. Thanks Tim. My own life, together with my emotional and physical difficulties have brought me to this place where that’s what I do. I choose never to stand in judgment because I know what it feels like to be judged.

    Having emotional and physical difficulties without knowing what those were, meant I would always be judged. I believe we all have a journey and through that journey we have understanding, how we get to have things like anger, but sometimes that understanding is limited; but then we’re able to piece some of that understanding together.

    I believe you already know yours; that somewhere in your psyche you understand certain aspects of your life. I also believe that some of what I write in my responses you intuitively understand. Understanding and knowing of course helps us deal with things like anger, because we already know the root cause.

  5. I hear you loud and clear on this Ilana! It gives people with disabilities a bad rep when people who don’t have disabilities claim to and therefore the rest of us are treated with ignorance as if we’re trying to get attention and that sparks anger with us.

    But it is so good to stay focused on the good we can do to help others. And that to me is very therapeutic.

    1. Thanks Bonnie. Yes, quite. I’ve often felt and still feel that unless the stigma behind disability is permanently removed, the situation you describe will always continue to be there.

      It’s a shame because in some areas of disability, society seems to have moved on, but then we tend to take two steps back. Because disability seems to be relegated to the bottom of the pile, it’s easy for us to feel angry and aggrieved.

      It’s bad enough dealing with a disability; made worse by us having to deal with disability stigmas.

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