Family feuds are toxic, usually based on an issue that escalates and gets bigger from very little, or through a history of issues brought about through a parent or sibling. Anything and everything that brings the family to a complete halt.
Sadly, falling out seems to be common within families. But any family feud is complicated to handle and unpleasant and can leave family members feeling sick to the stomach, unless you’re thinking another family member is to blame and you’re not.
Sadly, that’s not always the case. We all contribute to family rifts. It’s the nature of how family work; by us sometimes taking sides when we shouldn’t, or by not taking sides at all and we’re expected to, or digging our heels in where we should be looking to compromise, or failing to support those who need the help.
Anything and everything that can trigger intense emotional responses from us that continue well into adult behaviour and life, into our other relationships and through the generations. But disagreements, arguments, even fall-outs all cause pain that will continue to emotionally harm us, if not handled or nipped in the bud.
It’s important that we don’t make assumptions that we’re not to blame and someone else is and instead look at the bigger picture to see how we can help dissipate tension. The sad reality is that where we fail to acknowledge our part in any family disagreement, we will emotionally fail to get on with life well.
We emotionally carry arguments with us whether we think we do or not. Arguments don’t dissipate, they just stay on the back-burner until something happens and we don’t cope, when all it would take is some mediation and a sorry.