There are many different families in the same way there are people that are different. Perhaps that is what makes us flawed.
It is long assumed that children who grow up in good families with loving parents may turn out good, just as it is assumed that children who grow up in bad families, may turn out to be bad.
But children who come from bad families don’t always turn out to be bad, in the same way children who come from good families, don’t always turn out to be good. Other factors always come into play.
The reality is there are no guarantees on how we turn out. There is no set pattern in families that determines how we may turn out. Our identities and future are not always predetermined by our families, although with the right support and foundations in place, we can have a head start.
Many children who have grown up in difficult families often turn out to be kind and caring adults. Just because we may start off one way, doesn’t mean we shall continue, or end in the same way. It is up to each of us to change.
We may start off following family traits that constantly get played out, but we can re-write our own lives.