We hide behind different guises. We’re good at disguising, hiding emotional pain that comes from negative beliefs brought about by a person, or a particular situation. Those different guises are fear induced.
We’re afraid that if we show our vulnerability, we’ll be letting our guard down and that makes us look weak. That’s not altogether true, because when we open up and show others we’re dealing with our emotions, we become emotionally strong. Showing other people our vulnerable side, shows them how open and sensitive we are. It is liberating.
It is important to open up to explore what we feel, but it’s even more important to learn how to feel what we feel. We analyse and intellectualise our feelings, but we don’t feel them. Perhaps the reason why we choose to conceal our feelings is because it’s too painful to feel what we need to feel, or perhaps society is to blame.
Perhaps we’re also afraid that we may somehow lose control if we reveal our feelings to family, to friends and the world. Afraid of the pain involved in feeling what we feel. Perhaps our feelings are about a sense of loss, a sense of failure, a sense of pride, a sense of guilt.
Although it matters what we think, it matters more about what we feel. We can think and as long as those thoughts don’t ignite discord and disharmony we’re okay, but when we ignore our feelings and are afraid to feel what we feel because we’re not great at dealing with our emotions, we’re inviting illness in.
We must be more responsive to what we feel, to understand then own those feelings. Without owning and then dealing with our feelings, we will never be able to cultivate any form of empathy, compassion or tolerance.
Learning to feel what we feel not only helps us with empathy, compassion and tolerance through the process, but will go on to change how we see our life and our relationships.