It’s not always easy to understand how we can be surrounded by people and yet we feel lonely; all we know is we’re not happy.
Feeling lonely and being alone are a state of mind and our mind can always be changed, but first we need to know how and where to start. It usually starts with us in childhood and will depend on how we feel about ourselves.
The idea of being alone conjures up a sense of dread, particularly if being on our own means we’re forced to confront our thoughts and feelings. It’s something we’re not comfortable with. In fact, we would rather not confront ourselves at all.
Our feelings come from the soul. The soul is multi-layered and holds the powers of our thoughts, emotions and actions. It is the essence of who we are and is made up of and holds our unconscious, subconscious and conscious mind, emotions and wants.
The soul is connected to our experiences. It is an imprint of our behaviour. As soon as we change our behaviour, the soul’s imprint will change. How we feel about ourselves is important because that shapes how we will live our lives.
But deep-routed issues will always reside within us. It is those deep routed issues that form our struggles that highlight our dislike of feeling lonely. We must understand and work through each of our experiences, dealing with the issues we’ve not subconsciously resolved, such as trauma, loss or injustice.
Once we’ve dealt with our issues and we’re feeling more confident and at peace with our experiences, we will begin to feel more settled with ourselves and won’t mind being on our own.
We can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. Being alone and feeling lonely aren’t tied to us getting older. We can be any age and still feel lonely, but it becomes harder the older we get.