Based on my feature page quote, “He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the world,” it seems so hard focusing our attentions on other people, when we have difficulties focusing our attentions on ourselves sometimes.
We cannot help ourselves, or reach out to others when we’re not up to it and when we’re not up to it, it will only lead to burn-out. We need to have time to regroup to refocus on our lives and slow down the pace at which we do things.
Booking friends out in advance because were too busy, says we have too much to do and not enough ‘me’ time to sit and relax. It’s important to strike a balance so that we’re not always trying to fill a calendar space.
We should draw a line under what goes wrong in our day and tell ourselves it’s time to do something positive, even if what’s gone before has been negative. How many of us wait for the tide to change, instead of trying to change it? Invariably we are the ones with control, we can change what goes on in our lives.
Self-calming techniques can be used to allow us time to think about how we should proceed. For those of us who cannot or don’t know how to meditate, taking three or four deep breaths before any task will help us re-focus.
As we take those deep breaths, we learn to disconnect and then re-connect again, but on a more positive footing.