We force others to adapt instead of working with them. I’m not just referring to those of us who deal with disabilities, but in other walks of life too, where we’re expected to just fit in. This has been my life.
Society, people’s cultures, social change are all part of this scenario. We expect others to conform, adapt into what is the norm, even if the norm isn’t the norm for them. Life is hard, even harder when we’re expected to run with things and mentally we know we can’t.
Perhaps there’s something we’re having to transition to and that’s what we’re struggling with. With a disability everything is so much harder. Without a disability, the stability we create for ourselves, gives us security, which makes us feel more at ease. Being more at ease, means we’re more likely to give things a go.
Perhaps when we’re forcing others to adapt and they’re dealing with a disability, it means we’re uncertain on how to play things, or perhaps it’s just something that suits us, because we’re not having to come out of our comfort zone to help them.
Sadly, amongst my many bitter experiences and including where others expect me to adapt into their lives, they’re sending out the message that they care about themselves more.