We force others to adapt. It’s not just around disabilities to a certain extent, but in other walks of life also, where we’re expected to just fit in.
Society, people’s cultures, social change are all part of this scenario. We expect others to conform, adapt into what is the norm, even if the norm isn’t the norm for them. Life is hard, even harder when we’re expected to run with things and either physically or mentally, we know we can’t.
Perhaps there’s something we’re having to transition to and that’s what we’re struggling with. With a disability everything is much harder. Without a disability, the stability we create for ourselves, gives us security, which makes us feel more at ease. Being more at ease, means we’re more likely to give things a go.
When we’re forcing others to adapt and they’re dealing with a disability, it means we’re uncertain on how to play things, or it’s just something that suits us, because we’re not having to come out of our comfort zone to help them.
Around a disability, where others expect us to adapt into our lives, others are sending out the message they care about themselves more.