When someone ignores something, and they do it consciously with full knowledge and deliberation, that’s when we have a choice about whether we choose to forgive.
Because we have a choice to change our decisions and make a different choice, our decisions then become a whole new story and forgiveness is no longer justified. The deed is also no longer an open and shut case, particularly when the person making the decision knows there will be consequences.
So when it takes someone 47 years to come to know about a diagnosis and then hear the words ‘I didn’t want to know’ but thought they may have got compassion and understanding, then it brings a whole new meaning into the equation because it’s clear their life was never going to be any different to the one they got.
Because each deed is considered separate, forgiveness is subjective and is totally at our discretion, it becomes even more important we understand why we come to our decision and let go of the anger and bitterness.