Having lived with someone who had anger issues I know how toxic anger can be. We’re human beings; we’re bitter over the things we cannot change or control; we get angry and are slow to forgive.
Different forms of anger
Anger can take many forms. The most common used are:
Some of us may bottle our feelings up when we’re angry and instead of communicating and being open about how we feel; we become irritated by our circumstances and will shut off verbally instead.
We may also become obstructive by putting up a wall between the person we have a problem with and us. We may go into a sulk, we may also resist requests by evading issues altogether, creating even more confusion. We may also not show that we are angry or resentful. We may self-sabotage by withdrawing from social situations with friends and family.
Unfortunately, this form of anger is not always recognised as a symptom of anger, but that’s what it is. In some cases, we may appear to be polite; in agreement and well meaning. It becomes a vicious circle of course, because without addressing the symptoms of anger and how we feel, we will continue to embroil ourselves in our own personal battle.