It would be easy for us to hold a grudge because of everything we’ve had to deal with, but what would be the point? When we hold a grudge, we hope the pain we feel is felt by the person we have a grudge against. It’s the nature of what a grudge is.
Holding a grudge doesn’t make us feel any better about ourselves, neither does a grudge make us or our circumstances any better. A grudge doesn’t help us change anything. All a grudge does is make us stay bitter. It’s not the spiritual way.