We don’t go into parenting thinking about how our children will come out when they’re adults, but as parents we must try to get the parenting thing right, if our children are to turn into happy and healthy adults.
We also don’t anticipate the ways in which our children may become psychologically damaged through parenting. On an unconscious level, we go into parenthood wanting the best for our children.
So why do some children come out of their childhood scathed?
I believe the key to a happy and healthy successful childhood is emotional support. Without emotional support, children cannot function successfully. In a world where we don’t talk about the things that matter, it’s important we talk to our children. Emotional support starts with the parents.
Without emotional support, everything becomes difficult. As human beings, we thrive on love and emotional support and will struggle without it. Unfortunately, some parents think that having food on the table and a roof over their child’s head, they’ve done their job, but those things can never constitute a loving home or a loving relationship, nor will it help children build confidence in later life.
It’s up to all parents to contribute to their children’s emotional health. Without it, it’s easy to see why children struggle and then mess up. Abusing a child’s emotions in this way is neglect and if not changed will continue into their future relationships. It’s important for us to talk to our children about their fears, wants and needs.
Unconsciously, we parent as we have been parented, but we must think about and change the way we parent, regardless of what’s gone before us. It may be that we’re not fully aware or that we don’t stop to question, but that’s exactly what we must do.