We don’t go into parenting thinking about how our children will turn out when they’re adults, but perhaps it’s something we should think about.
It’s important we at least try to get the parenting thing right if our children are to turn into happy and healthy adults. We also don’t anticipate the ways in which our children may become psychologically damaged through our parenting; on an unconscious level, we usually go into parenthood wanting the best for our children.
Speaking from my own experiences, the key to a happy and healthy successful childhood is emotional support, because without it children cannot function successfully. In a world where we don’t talk about things that matter, it’s important we talk to our children. Emotional support starts with the parents and without that in place, everything becomes difficult.
We’re human, we’re supposed to thrive on love and emotional support. Some parents think that having food on the table and a roof over their child’s head is a job well done, but those things will and never can constitute a loving home or relationship, nor will it help children build confidence in later life.
It is up to us as parents to contribute to our children’s emotional health. Without it, it’s easy to see why children struggle and then mess up. It’s important for us to talk to our children about their fears, wants and needs.
We parent as we have been parented, but it’s important we think about and change the way we parent, regardless of what’s gone before. It may be that parents aren’t fully aware, or that they don’t stop to question, but rest assured, what they do or don’t do will sadly, spiral into any new relationship their children have further down the line.