‘I’ll be happy when…’ The biggest mistake we make is putting everything we want to do on hold, waiting for the time when we’re happy, when our life is problem free.
In times of stress, we continue to justify our thinking around the usual stuff. For example things will change when I finally have a pay rise, a place of my own, a better job, or a committed relationship, then I can be happy. But sadly the idea that we can’t be happy unless we meet all our conditions is our barrier to happiness and success combined.
Trying to make our circumstances match those of our thoughts, may only serve to create more stress, because our thoughts will never match those of our circumstances, because we’re constantly fighting with unresolved unconscious experiences.
When we continue to justify where we are, we will always continue to make excuses instead of doing something about where we are. The first thing we must do is stop making excuses, or finding reasons to justify our thinking that doesn’t help.
And although where we are, may initially be someone else’s fault, as the adult we must take control regardless of who is initially responsible. Sadly, we’re losing precious time debating our life, rather than taking control of it.
I was always looking to find ways to take back control, of wanting to find out what was wrong with me. I never gave up hope. Without dealing with my issues, I wouldn’t have instigated finding out what I had been dealing with and the Diary wouldn’t exist.
We open the door on so many possibilities when we’re in a happier place. So, however hard it is, it’s important we find ways to push through, deal with our issues and find ways to be happy.