Conflicts are an inevitable part of life, sadly. However hard we try it’s not easy trying to permanently avoid them, but the stronger we are the easier we’ll handle them and without having to cut ties.
For those of us who choose to walk away from conflict, it’s often because we’re afraid to look deeply within ourselves. We tend to bury the things we don’t like, or we don’t want to deal with and pass those off as if the problem for us doesn’t exist.
Some of us will either sit on the fence or will leave those things to someone else to sort out, but not dealing with conflicts means in that moment all communication stops until the conflict is addressed or resolved. Outer conflict when it’s ignored will harm others if we deny our part.
Getting involved in blame, resentment and projection causes relationships to drift. They also cause resentment. When we judge, separation and conflicts will occur. When we blame, we’re dealing with conflict within ourselves that we’ve never dealt with.
Emotional conflicts and resentments rarely have anything to do with the present moment. The present moment is usually the catalyst for buried issues to surface. Most of the negativity comes from past issues not yet dealt with.
Those feelings are projected into conflict that we don’t always recognise as being part of us.