Conflicts are inevitable. However hard we try it will be hard to permanently avoid them, but the stronger we are and become, the more we will be capable of handling conflict, potentially without having to cut ties.
I also believe we walk away from conflict, as we are afraid to deeply look within ourselves. Living with Cerebral Palsy as a child, meant that I had more of my own internal conflict to deal with. We tend to bury things we don’t like or want to deal with and then pass those off on to others, as if the problem for us doesn’t exist.
How many of us will distance ourselves from conflict?
We either sit on the fence or will walk away leaving it to someone else to sort out. It’s not our problem. The problem with not addressing disputes, is that all communication stops until the conflict is addressed or resolved. Outer conflict will harm others if we deny our part.
Getting stuck into blame, resentment and projection means we will destroy our relationships and our lives. Judgment and blame causes resentment. When we judge, separation and conflicts will occur. When we choose to blame, we have conflict in ourselves that has never been resolved.
Emotional conflicts and resentments rarely have a lot to do with the present moment. Most of the negativity we feel comes from past feelings that have never been resolved. Those feelings are projected into conflict that we don’t always recognise coming from ourselves. We need to heal conflicts from within.
When we take control; and recognise the negative conflicts that are within us, we give ourselves the opportunity to open new doors to compassion, love and communication.