Many of us will develop a protective shell, to shield tender emotions. We show the world we’re okay, telling others we’re okay, then we begin to convince ourselves we’re okay.
Until I learned how to recognise the signs, I believe we’re not always consciously aware of what’s making is not fine. Sometimes emotional trauma lies below our conscious awareness. That means we’re aware of something that is making us feel unhappy, but we’re not always consciously aware of what that is. We just know we’re not feeling happy, but we have no idea why. Somewhere below our conscious awareness, lies a blockage that stops us from becoming aware of how we feel.
The not feeling happy feelings can range from feeling uncomfortable about something, to thoughts that involve either a physical or emotional pain brought about through certain events beyond our control. When we learn to look within ourselves for the answers we’re more likely to understand why we have trauma and then how to deal with that trauma.
When we learn to emotionally deal with and support ourselves we will also begin to talk more freely about how we feel. From a very early age, through necessity it’s easy to become self-absorbed. By being self-absorbed we begin to understand our pain. Instead of participating in life I would spend time observing life and that’s when I learned how to deal with trauma.
I know what it feels like to hold on to emotional pain, but it’s both necessary and important to let go and quit hiding behind the emotional pain that we feel.