My mum used to quote the saying ‘no one goes go to school to be a parent’, but that puts children at a disadvantage. It tells children that however their parents parent, they’re supposed to be okay with it. But it’s not always okay, because children’s lives are shaped by how they are parented.
In the context of spirituality, we all have free will to change how we do things: so do parents. Because children aren’t always in a position to talk to their parents about how they’re parented, it is important that parents parent well, and do the best they can.
Where children may hold grudges against their parents, it’s crucial they understand that grudges turn into anger and anger into bitterness. These are conversations that parents should prioritise having with their children. Parents should always be approachable.