The saying ‘no one goes go to school to be a parent’ puts children at a disadvantage. It tells children that however their parents parent, they’re supposed to be okay with it. But it’s not okay, because children’s lives are shaped by how they are parented, so although the analogy is correct, the deed isn’t.
In the context of spirituality, we all have free will to change how we do things, so do parents. Because children aren’t always in a position to talk to their parents on how they’re parented, it is important that parents’ parent correctly, or do the best they can.
Where children may hold grudges against their parents, it’s crucial they understand that grudges turn into anger and anger into bitterness. These are conversations that parents should prioritise having with their children. Parents should always be approachable.